Winner's Gold from Personal Garbage

Have you noticed how everybody takes it for granted a bad experience is automatically, unreservedly, unremittingly bad?

That nothing good could ever come from a bad childhood, for example?

I'm hearing the comment more and more often that we have become a victim society. Maybe this is true?

Consider...Don't we hear these comments a lot? I was mistreated when I was a child... I was a lonely latchkey kid... My ancestors got a bad break, so I'm... I lived in a poor, disadvantaged family... I grew up in a broken home... I didn't get the proper advantages... I was constantly criticized as a child...

Every one of these comments sounds a lot like self-pity, like "I can't be helped because I've been scarred beyond reclaim."

Well, maybe all of the bare facts are true, but isn't it time to start looking for the positives that are buried in all that negative stuff?

Example: I was mistreated when I was a child... ...and as a result, I learned to be a survivor and to resist all efforts to crush my spirit. Sure I had some hard times back then, but now, I'm both tough and sensitive. I didn't learn self esteem then, but I've learned it as an adult, and I understand people better for it.

Example: I was a latchkey kid... ...and everyone treated me like an abandoned orphan. But it was great. My dad and mom fought all the time, so coming home to a quiet house was a wonderful break, and I loved it.

See what I'm getting at here?

You have the right to take any piece of your personal history and reinterpret it to your advantage rather than to your detriment. You can find ways to turn your past to your own good.

Studies have shown that many children who grow up insecure tend to be unusually self-reliant as adults.

You don't HAVE to be filled with resentment, anger or helplessness. You COULD choose to feel something more pleasant, at least part of the time. And if you did choose to feel better about yourself, what do you think the result might be?

Did you know this is what many of the most successful people do?

If they have a terrible experience, they simply turn it this way and that till they find a new aspect to emphasize. One that makes them feel better about themselves.

Don't believe me?

Go read any great person's biography.

It's almost a given that winners only become winners after overcoming huge difficulties. And they overcome because they keep trying, keep learning how to control their own thinking until they get good at it.

So if you've got anything -- ANYTHING AT ALL -- in your past that drags you down, angers you or depresses you, you have the right to look at it more closely.

You can find more than garbage in your past. There's gold in your history, too. And all you've got to do is learn to look for it.

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Charles Burke is the author of Command More Luck, the book that shows you why all those things keep happening to you. Learn why "luck" doesn't work the way you've always been told. Not even close. The bad news -- There's no such thing as luck. The good news -- There's something even better. Learn how it works at www.moreluck.com

How a 7-Year-Old Gets What He Wants... and How You Can Too!

Kids are the absolute masters at getting what they want and my 7-year-old son is no exception. Although he's never read a word of Wallace D. Wattles' writings (he is however very familiar with the basics of Wallace D. Wattles'philosophy), over the last seven years he's reduced how to get what he wants to a science.
Here's his "scientific" formula for getting what he wants:

1. He clearly recognizes the "source" of his supply.
In his case... Daddy! :-)

2. He's very clear and very definite about what he wants "next".
It might be a toy or a video game; or to do something or go somewhere. Whatever it is, he's very clear and definite about it and, so as not to confuse his "source", he usually focuses on one thing at a time, the one thing he wants "next".

3. He clearly communicates his desire to his "source".
He makes absolutely sure his "source" clearly understands what it is he wants, leaving no room for error whatsoever.
He does this by providing his "source" with a picture of what he wants, either from a brochure or one he prints off the Internet, or he takes his "source" to the store and shows him exactly what he wants (and, in the process, shows him exactly where to get it).

4. He goes about his business to the absolute best of his ability with full *faith* that his "source" will provide when the time is right.
After he's clearly communicated what he wants to his "source", in his mind it's a "done deal"...
Keeping what he's asked for in mind and thinking about how much he'll enjoy it when he receives it, he goes about his business (that of being a "good kid", which he does perfectly) *knowing* his "source" will "come through" with what he wants when it's the right time for him to have it.

5. He's very *grateful* to his "source" for all he has and all that's coming his way.
His "source", who very much enjoys being the recipient of his gratitude, is as anxious to give him what he wants as he is to get it. As a matter of fact, his "source" so enjoys his gratitude that he goes out of his way to "surprise" him with all sorts of good things he doesn't even ask for.
There's really not much more to it than that. I can tell you from personal experience, his "formula" works and it works all the time.

Let's look his "formula" from a different perspective...

1. Does he set long-range, mid-range and short-range goals?
Nope. He just focuses on what he wants next. My gosh, he doesn't even put it in writing!

2. Does he set goals in all areas of his life?
Nope. He just focuses on his most pressing need or want at the moment.

3. Does he set deadlines?
Nope. He learned a long time ago (the hard way, but he did learn it), it's not a good idea to impose his will upon his "source".

4. Does he have action plans?
Nope.

5. Does he plan his time?
Nope.

6. Does he go out and try hard to "make it happen"?
Nope.

7. Does he read books, listen to audio programs and attend seminars on how to get what he wants?
Nope.

8. Does he work on becoming the kind of person who is capable of getting, or worthy of, what he wants?
Nope. He knows he's good enough the way he is. He knows his "source" is a good and loving "source" who wants him to have the things he wants as much as he wants to have them.

Now...
Does he get *everything* he wants?
Absolutely not!

His "source", being wise and all-knowing :-), knows there are certain things he doesn't really want or if he gets them he won't like them or be happy with them. In that case, his "source" comes through with something even better.

Hmmm...

Does any of this sound familiar?
It should. :-)

His "scientific" formula is the very essence of what Wallace D. Wattles teaches about getting what you want...

Simply substitute "Formless Substance", "Thinking Stuff" or whatever you prefer to call the "Universal Power" for "source", follow his simple formula and you'll be well on your way to getting what *you* want.

Tony Mase is a serious student of the works of Wallace D.Wattles and the publisher of "The Science of Abundant Life"ebook by Wallace D. Wattles...http://www.thescienceofabundantlife.com/

Ten Top Tips For Successfully Setting Goals

By: Jackie Fletcher,

"Goals. There's no telling what you can do when you get inspired by them. There's no telling what you can do when you believe in them. And there's no telling what will happen when you act upon them."

~ Jim Rohn

Would you like to achieve positive results in your life and get what you really want?

This tried and tested goal setting strategy is an effective way to set and achieve your goals.

My Ten Top Tips are as follows:

• Write them down. By writing down your goals you are showing personal commitment and declaring your intention to succeed, as well as helping to clarify your thinking.

• Be specific. Write down goals that are specific, measurable and positive. Focus clearly on what you desire, not what you lack or want to get rid of from your life.

• Have a time limit. Set a date by which you will have achieved each of your goals. Otherwise, it’s like starting a football match without having agreed when the game is to end!

• Think of the benefits. Think through all the benefits of achieving your goals, and write them all down. This helps you clarify why they are important to you, visualise and feel what it will be like to achieve them, check how committed you are to working on them - and all this will help energise and motivate you if the going gets tough.

• Consider options and obstacles. How many ways can you think of to achieve your goal? Evaluate the results and consequences of each. What could stop you or cause a problem? And what about subconscious obstacles? Complete this sentence several times to find out more – “I want to achieve (name your goal) but………”

• Make a detailed plan. Having chosen your preferred way forward, identify all the actions you’ll need to take. This breaks a seemingly big and daunting task down into manageable steps, enables you to plan what to do, prepare for problems, and reduces resistance to actually getting started.

• Identify resources. What skills, knowledge, ability and contacts do you already have? What additional resources will you require? What changes do you need to make? Realistically review and assess this when making your plan, and ask for extra support as required.

• Balance and fit. Check that all the areas of your life are in balance – if not, will your various goals make this happen? Will your goals support your long term plans and fit your ambitions, are they worthy of you, do they reflect your values? So while you are building that great career or business, ensure that you are also looking after your health, relationships, fun time, wealth and personal development etc.

• Take action! Make a start. Actually take the first step you identified when you formed your plan of action.

• Review and reward. Set some interim milestones as part of your initial strategy. This means you can check your progress regularly and see that you are moving in the right direction. And as part of this process acknowledge your achievements along the way and reward yourself for everything you accomplish. Celebrate!

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Jackie Fletcher is a life satisfaction and mentor coach, working with busy professionals, small business owners and new coaches, helping them create and live the life they really want – balanced, successful and happy. For more information visit www.transitionslifecoaching.co.uk

9 Steps To Living Abundantly

By: Jane Thurnell-Read,

Many of us are bowed down by life – stressed, short of time, tired, on a treadmill, knowing that this isn’t the way to live, but not knowing how to free ourselves up to live more fully, more abundantly.

There are simple things we can do – they don’t take time or money – they take a change of attitude.

Here are 9 of them:

1. Being totally financially honest – if you are not, this implies that there is not enough for you to have everything you need without dishonesty.

2. Creating a vacuum so that more good things can flow into it – don’t fill your life up with things you don’t really want. Ask yourself if you want each thing before you buy it. Don’t have abundant rubbish, live abundantly by seeking out the things and experiences that work for you in your core being.

3. Tithing is often associated with religion, but it is also possible to tithe in a non-religious context. This seems a really important aspect of living abundantly – every time you freely give money away, you are implying that you are confident that more will come – this is a BIG positive affirmation with a lot of power behind it. The traditional amount is 10% of your income. I’ve recommended this to lots of people, and they’ve told me that when they do this – magically - they seem to have more. I started with 10% but now I’ve increased it, because I’ve seen that the more I give away the more I get back, and the happier and more abundantly I live.

4. Being grateful for what you already have – focussing on the good that is already in your life. It’s easy to think about what you don’t have, but spend some time each day thinking about what you do have. Start each day by thinking of 5 things that you are grateful for – and express this out loud.

5. Resentment, jealousy, envy and self-pity interfere with the free-flow of abundance. If you are jealous or envious of someone, it implies that.......................

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Jane Thurnell-Read believes that life is here to be enjoyed, and that being healthy and happy is how we are intended to be. Visit her web site www.healthandgoodness.com for well-researched, unbiased ideas and infos for your life. The web site isn't trying to sell you anything - we just want to help you to be happy and healthy

You Choose to React or Respond

By: Daniel Sitter

Choices abound. Sometimes choices confound us, while at other times, certain choices are rather obvious. Any way you approach the subject, choices present opportunities to either excel or hinder. As human beings, we were endowed by our Creator with the power of choice. It is one of the factors that differentiate persons from animals. Some people make these choices or decisions more easily than others.

Each day, we must decide how we will spend our precious twenty four hours and deal with all that the world presents to us. We choose how we will be affected by both everyday occurrences and those that are much more extraordinary.Whether consciously or unconsciously, we choose to either react or respond. These are not the same, for one is negative and one is positive. Which we choose may have a significant impact on our life and possibly those close to us.

Reacting to outside influences, usually beyond our control is generally a negative choice. Reacting implies that we have given charge of the situation to someone or something else. We surrender our input and any control in the matter.We are now at the mercy of the situation and are forced to be in reaction mode where we are constantly dodging bullets and expending great amounts of energy just to stay afloat.

In reacting to a situation, we do not anticipate that which is to come because we are too busy handling the present.The future then surprises us and the whole mess begins again.Responding to a situation is a positive choice. It is the opposite of reacting. It is proactive and anticipates that which is yet to come.

Responding is preceded by thought and often prayer. In responding, we take charge and have command over how the situation impacts us. We also have control over how it affects us internally. We decide upon the level of personal impact.

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Daniel Sitter is the author of the popular, award-winning e-book, Learning For Profit. Designed for busy people, his new book teaches simple, step-by-step accelerated learning skills, demonstrating exactly how to learn anything faster than ever before. Learning For Profit is currently available at the author’s web site http://www.learningforprofit.com/ and from numerous online book merchants. Mr. Sitter, having expertise in sales, marketing and personal development, is a frequent contributor to several publications.